You (Can’t) Complete Me

Eagle's nest near Woods Canyon Lake (AZ)
Eagle’s nest near Woods Canyon Lake (AZ)

Time moves like grey clouds on an overcast day.

Shading,

shifting,

shadowing.

My future, hazy, rolls on the horizon.

My perch, compromised;

my insecurities, exposed.

I used to think you completed me.

I bought into the fallacy;

           partook of the trickery-

My cup runs over, but still, I’m empty.

Incomplete.

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Inspiration: Though written in first person, the poem is not autobiographical this time. For some reason the phrase, “you complete me” came to mind today. I’m not so sure someone else can complete us. I think we have to be whole and comfortable in our “self” before we can commit to love. However, I’m not a total pessimist- I do believe we can find someone who compliments us by bringing out our better qualities.

In this poem, the broken person realizes that no matter how much the other person gives, it’s not enough. Looking back on the relationship, with the perspective of the time invested, he/she sees an uncertain future. The person has grown to be cynical from the realization they were duped by the idea someone else could make them whole. “My cup runs over, but still, I’m empty” – this acknowledges that although life has bestowed numerous blessings, the person still feels hollow inside.

Of course, if you saw something entirely different in these words, you’re right, too!

Thanks for reading and contemplating my words. Have a wonderful rest of the week 🙂

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50 thoughts on “You (Can’t) Complete Me

  1. Timothy Price November 6, 2014 / 7:25 AM

    Wonderful poem. I think so many people have those insecurities and feelings of emptiness, even those for whom their belief systems promise otherwise. I look at myself and even though I am so blessed in every way, there are times I feel helpless, hopeless and empty. Thanks for your insightful way with words, Janna!

    • jannatwrites November 6, 2014 / 8:48 AM

      I think many of us do go through periods where we feel empty (I know I have) – and that is contrary to my beliefs as well! I appreciate you reading and sharing your comment, Timothy 🙂

  2. Leigh W. Smith November 6, 2014 / 8:06 AM

    I like the melancholy of this poem, and the spareness of the photo, too, but I’m really glad it’s not autobiographical. Have a great one, Janna!

    • jannatwrites November 6, 2014 / 8:49 AM

      Thanks, Leigh! I’m still feeling a bit out of sorts, as I have for a couple months, but I’m certainly not running on empty right now 🙂

  3. Sean November 6, 2014 / 8:22 AM

    I agree that there are some or even many in society that can relate to this poem. I think we try to rush into things hastily instead of waiting for the right time. I do have to disagree on one aspect though. I believe that someone can complete the other person. The Bible tells us that 2 become 1. it’s usually that we try to make God’s decision on who the other is and not wait for His timing. Glad you were able to get a good picture of the eagle’s nest. It would be neat to see a little baby eagle head pop up over the side. Take care

    • jannatwrites November 6, 2014 / 8:51 AM

      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts, Sean. Timing is crucial and often our time and God’s time aren’t in the same zone. I understand that in the Biblical sense, two become one, but I still maintain that if something is deficient in us, if we’re not at peace with who we are, no one can fill that space. Hmmm… perhaps maybe I’m more cynical than I thought? 🙂

      • Sean November 6, 2014 / 12:47 PM

        I understand what you’re saying, but if the two together aren’t the two which God intended to be together, then there will always be a deficiency because that piece which God set aside in each of us for a specific person to fill is never filled.

        • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:44 AM

          I see this point, Sean… but it’s not a view I hold.

          I don’t think that there’s necessarily one person meant for each person. I think if we seek God’s counsel he will lead us to a compatible person that will compliment our being. There are instances, even in biblical times where a person remarried after the death of a spouse, which was an acceptable practice. If each person has only one match, then the remarriage would automatically negate the value of one of the marriages, because one of them was not the intended mate. I don’t think God leaves a deficiency in us to be filled by someone else (other than God, as Imelda’s referenced quote pointed out.)

          All this being said, there is no way to “prove” a right or wrong view here. Thanks for feeling comfortable enough to share a view that is different than mine- it’s definitely given me some things to ponder!

  4. Polysyllabic Profundities November 6, 2014 / 9:10 AM

    I love the poem and thoroughly agree that another person does not complete us. We must be a whole person to be able to give a part of ourselves to someone else to enhance their life, not complete it. Lovely sentiment, Janna.

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:27 AM

      Thanks, Susan! I’m glad you enjoyed the poem 🙂

  5. vishalbheeroo November 6, 2014 / 9:21 AM

    You completely is flawless..pure white coated:)

  6. Emilio Pasquale November 6, 2014 / 9:36 AM

    I never liked poetry. You always had to search for the hidden meaning. I like that you give us your inspiration. It fills out the meaning for me!

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:29 AM

      Thanks, Emilio! I’m glad you like the inspiration notes… that’s a fairly new thing for me, but enough have commented in favor of it, I’ll keep doing it 🙂

  7. suzicate November 6, 2014 / 10:02 AM

    I agree with your sentiments. Others might complement us but they don’t complete us; that is up to us.

  8. Imelda November 6, 2014 / 10:09 AM

    Oh, so true, both the sentiments in the poem and in your notes.

    Your post reminded me of this quote from Blaise Pascal – “There is a God shaped vacuum in the heart of every man which cannot be filled by any created thing, but only by God, the Creator, made known through Jesus.”

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:30 AM

      I love that quote, Imelda! It’s not one I’ve heard before, but agree 100%.

  9. Debbie November 6, 2014 / 12:07 PM

    Well penned, Janna! Thanks for the interpretation (especially the part where you say this one isn’t autobiographical). I love the wisdom in these lines — no one can *complete* us but we can find someone (or many several someones over time) who compliment us!

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:31 AM

      I thought it was important to note the fictional aspect – I don’t want to be “angsty” ALL the time 🙂 I’m glad you liked the poem, Debbie!

  10. jenniesisler November 6, 2014 / 12:28 PM

    Honestly, I think this poem sums up perfectly why so many relationships fail. The only one who can change us is ourselves, and until we realize that, we’ll nevver find our soulmate. Thanks for sharing this.

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:32 AM

      Thanks for reading, Jennie! Love for the wrong reasons will leave a disappointing void.

      • jenniesisler November 7, 2014 / 10:07 AM

        It’s just a shame some people don’t realize that at the beginning of a relationship.

        • jannatwrites November 10, 2014 / 12:20 AM

          True enough 🙂

  11. joannesisco November 6, 2014 / 1:08 PM

    There is so much yearning in these words. I’m glad they aren’t a reflection of how you are feeling 🙂
    On the other hand, we all have those low spots when we feel hollow, like something is missing. No? Just me? Damn.

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:45 AM

      Oh, it’s not just you, Joanne! (You crack me up 🙂 )I feel the hollowness from time to time. I don’t like it all, but thankfully, it doesn’t usually stick around too long.

  12. mbarkersimpson November 6, 2014 / 2:47 PM

    Beautiful – I absolutely loved the flow of this poem – the mood. It so sad it clutched at my heart.

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:45 AM

      Thanks, Melissa – I appreciate you reading it and I’m happy to know it evoked an emotional response.

  13. nrhatch November 6, 2014 / 2:54 PM

    Well expressed, Janna. The “you complete me” fallacy is one of those “precious illusions” that Alanis addressed in this song. You might enjoy:

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:49 AM

      Thanks for sharing the link, Nancy! (This is a lot different than what she sang on her Jagged Little Pill album- more introspective than angry :razz:)

      • nrhatch November 7, 2014 / 1:20 PM

        Yes. Jagged Little Pill and Under Rug Swept are both favorites . . . but very different.

        • jannatwrites November 10, 2014 / 12:22 AM

          She sings with emotion either way, Nancy. I liked Jagged Little Pill back in the day, but I also liked the vulnerability she expressed in this new song… probably suits me more today than her old stuff would. Maybe this is because we’re about the same age.

  14. Widdershins November 6, 2014 / 3:36 PM

    The ‘shape’ of your poem looked like a falling leaf to me. Probably because a brisk wind is rattling all the leaves off the trees in our front yard right now. 🙂

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:50 AM

      Cool! Any shape was purely unintentional on this one (except for the indents.) Winter isn’t far away now…

  15. Lance November 6, 2014 / 5:25 PM

    I like how you layed this our, it delivered the theme well.

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:51 AM

      Thanks, Lance – I appreciate you reading it!

  16. agjorgenson November 6, 2014 / 8:28 PM

    I love the image of time shifting like clouds. I can even imagine clouds being pushed backward for a time as we visit the past. Great poem.

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 9:52 AM

      Thanks, Allen – I’m glad that image made sense to you… sometimes a phrase comes to mind and I think it works, but there’s no way to know if others will see it too!

  17. GodGirl November 7, 2014 / 3:59 AM

    This has a really ponderous, morose feel – I love the comparison to the shifting clouds. I agree with you on the ‘you complete me’ thing. A woman once said to me she thought of herself and her husband as “two sides of the same coin”. It kind of didn’t set well with me in terms of how I view a partnership. I see my husband and I as two coins who don’t mind ‘rattling around’ together. We complement each other, as you said. But we aren’t one and the same person. As people we only find ‘completion’ in God I think.

    • jannatwrites November 7, 2014 / 10:00 AM

      That’s the feeling I hoped to convey, GodGirl. I love the analogy of you and your husband being two coins “rattling around” together…that’s a great way to illustrate the point. Your last statement rings true to me. If we depend on another earthly person to fill a need within us, it just seems like it wouldn’t be adequate. All of us are sinners and make mistakes, so I can’t see our void being adequately met. (It would be like getting a cavity filled by a drywall repair guy instead of a licensed dentist.)

  18. diannegray November 8, 2014 / 3:38 PM

    This is a fabulous poem, Janna. “My cup runs over, but still, I’m empty” is wonderful! 😀

    • jannatwrites November 10, 2014 / 12:23 AM

      Thanks, Dianne! I appreciate you reading the poem 🙂

  19. frederick anderson November 14, 2014 / 4:50 AM

    My weaknesses are her strengths – sometimes my need to explain to her helps me rationalize, too, I suppose. Yes, I would say if she doesn’t absolutely ‘complete’ me, what she does for me comes very close. And I hope I do the same for her, in some humble way. Nice poem, very atmospheric, very moody and – well, I was going to use the word ‘dark’ but I don’t think its quite that…

    • jannatwrites November 14, 2014 / 11:03 PM

      I’m glad you have a relationship that fits with your wife, Frederick! It’s encouraging to hear about relationships that work so well, since the ones that don’t often get the attention.

  20. pattisj November 14, 2014 / 3:17 PM

    The depth of your writing, carried through so many forms of expression, boggles my mind. Nice work.

    • jannatwrites November 14, 2014 / 11:05 PM

      Thanks for reading and for leaving your nice comment, Patti 🙂

  21. Sarah Ann November 16, 2014 / 1:12 PM

    I’m glad this isn’t autobiography. Particularly liked the sense of ‘My future, hazy, rolls on the horizon./ My perch, compromised;’. It is sad when relationships don’t work, and even sadder when people are not content on their own but are forever chasing their perfect ‘other half’.

    • jannatwrites November 16, 2014 / 11:12 PM

      Chasing an illusion that doesn’t exist would be a sad existence, Sarah Ann. Thanks so much for reading!

  22. Carol Ann Hoel November 19, 2014 / 1:54 PM

    Beautiful poem, Janna. Elegantly written exposing the fallacy of the ages. Until we learn that our mate cannot be everything we need, we cannot truly enjoy the relationship. Blessings to you…

    • jannatwrites November 21, 2014 / 1:55 AM

      Thanks, Carol Ann! It is a lot of pressure to put on on person to be everything.

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