I’ve seen a paradigm shift in parenting: discipline became bribery and children wield power.
“Honey, I’ve told you, no candy. Put it down.”
Child wails; parent hands him candy.
This strikes a nerve.
This is my response to the Trifecta weekend prompt: This weekend we are asking for exactly 33 words, 30 of your own and three of the following: topple paradigm underneath nerve honey loop
I think we’ve all seen the grocery store check out battle. It breaks my heart a little when the kiddos win 🙂
I probably shouldn’t have tackled this topic, given that the last couple of days have been a nightmare with the children. Back in my day, certain behaviors were just not tolerated and were backed up with the threat of a spanking- or worse, “wait til your dad gets home.” They weren’t idle threats- they were carried out. I had a few (well-deserved) spankings in my childhood, but I don’t consider myself abused at all.
Don’t even get me started on how society has tied parents’ hands. I don’t think spanking is a first choice, and my kids know this…which is why they often push the limits in public. The “no TV for a week” punishment does nothing to stop the behavior in the moment. I’ve received judgmental stares and glares whether I discipline or not. I can’t win. I have actually had my kids tell me that I can’t spank them because it’s child abuse. That frosts me. So they think they can be disrespectful and rude without consequences? I don’t think so. If I would have said some of the things to my parents that my older son yelled at us last night, I doubt I’d be able to sit here right now typing this blog post. Just sayin’.
To society: cut me some slack. I’m struggling here. I’m trying to raise children who are not brats or future members of the U.S. prison system. I don’t have the answers and it seems my parents’ ways are no longer accepted. If you have all the answers, please send me your address. My children get out of school next week and would love to spend the summer with you.
Sorry. Got side-tracked on my little rant 🙂 If you want to check out other responses, or try the prompt yourself, click on the tricycle picture to go to Trifecta’s site. I hope you have a beautiful weekend!