Tale of Two Fathers

The man who is half of me

Is a ghost of my past.

As a girl just shy of three,

I didn’t understand

Cheating, adultery, infidelity.

He married again,

And created another family,

He planned a visit one weekend,

But this girl of five was too scared to leave mommy.

I didn’t know there wouldn’t be another invitation.

He sent something Holly Hobbie

For every birthday and Christmas.

I blamed his absence on me

And hated his obligatory gifts-

If only I hadn’t been such a baby….


I first met my Dad,

When I was a girl of three.

I’m told I thought he was a handsome man,

Mom found my “googly” stares embarrassing.

(When children tag along on a date, that happens :))

My Dad, a man of twenty-three,

Fell in love, and married, a woman with two kids-

My brother, four years older- and me.

(Two kids he later legally adopted;

It made it official, but he was always “Dad” to me.)

He was the muscle behind Mom’s “mad,”

He sprouted gray hair through my teens,

He tried his best to help me with math,

He walked me down the aisle at my wedding-

He is, and always will be, my Dad.


I’ve had two earthly fathers,

But only one Dad.

He is the answer to prayers

I was too young to have.

Today, I thank God for the blessing of Dad.


I’d like to wish all the dads (and those of us who’ve loved a Dad) a happy Father’s Day:


31 thoughts on “Tale of Two Fathers

  1. Carl D'Agostino June 17, 2012 / 2:35 AM

    Seems things worked out just fine. I had to get away from their mother when Cristina was 6 months and Carlos 18 months and keep some distance. I saw them intermittently(it was very ugly situation) but got custody of them in early teens. 12 years of child support went to booze and cocaine.

    • jannatwrites June 17, 2012 / 10:07 AM

      Yours really was a sad situation, Carl. I’m glad you did get them in the end, but I imagine it must’ve been difficult to end up with teens in the house all of a sudden. For me, things did work out, though I don’t know the whole situation. I don’t need to know. Thanks for visiting and sharing your story. Happy Father’s Day!

  2. suzicate June 17, 2012 / 6:20 AM

    What a wonderful man and father! God really does answer prayers spoken or unspoken.

    • jannatwrites June 17, 2012 / 10:08 AM

      I did get lucky. Sure, there were some rough years, but now that I’m on the other side, I can appreciate my good fortune. Thanks for stopping by, Suzicate. Hope you have a nice Father’s Day with the men in your life!

  3. Debbie June 17, 2012 / 11:15 AM

    God was surely watching over you and your family, to send the right man into your lives at the right time! You’re so blessed your mom didn’t stay in that first situation — yes, you don’t need to know the details. I’m glad things took a sunnier turn!

    • jannatwrites June 17, 2012 / 5:40 PM

      Me too, Debbie! Looking back on it, things really did turn out just fine 🙂

  4. Diane Turner June 17, 2012 / 11:19 AM

    Lovely tribute to your Dad. You’re absolutely correct: Fathering does not a Dad make.

    • jannatwrites June 17, 2012 / 5:41 PM

      It makes me sad when I hear stories about fathers disappearing from a child’s life. All the child knows is that they are gone, and it must be because they didn’t like them enough. Thanks for reading and sharing your comment, Diane!

  5. newwhitebear June 17, 2012 / 11:22 AM

    very nice tribute to your Dad. I like too much.

    • jannatwrites June 17, 2012 / 5:42 PM

      Thanks so much for reading, Newwhitebear. I appreciate your visits 🙂

  6. pattyabr June 17, 2012 / 1:49 PM

    Nice. These experiences form us as human beings. As a result you are very thoughtful and reflective as a mother and a writer.

    • jannatwrites June 17, 2012 / 5:49 PM

      Thanks for reading, Patty! It wasn’t until adulthood that I could fully appreciate him. Better late than never, I guess.

  7. Carol Ann Hoel June 17, 2012 / 3:49 PM

    That was just beautiful to read, Janna. Blessings to your dad and you…

    • jannatwrites June 17, 2012 / 5:50 PM

      Thanks, Carol. I’m glad you stopped by to read it. It’s one of the more personal things I’ve posted and I almost ‘chickened out’ on it again 🙂

  8. Eric Alagan June 17, 2012 / 11:24 PM

    Happy for you Janna – glad that it all turned out well.

    • jannatwrites June 18, 2012 / 5:26 PM

      Thanks, Eric. Things really did work out okay 🙂

  9. braintomahawk June 18, 2012 / 6:43 AM

    Wonderfully written. Strong and emotional. Thank you for sharing this with us.

    • jannatwrites June 18, 2012 / 5:26 PM

      Thank you for reading, Braintomahawk. I appreciate it!

  10. cuhome June 18, 2012 / 10:32 AM

    Very touching, poignant poem! Loved it!

    • jannatwrites June 18, 2012 / 5:42 PM

      This one is close to my heart. Thanks for taking time to read it, Janet.

  11. judithhb June 18, 2012 / 3:56 PM

    My son has a card from one of his children, proudly displayed on the fridge. It reads “Any man can be a father but it takes a special man to be a dad”. I really believe that as I had a special father and miss him just about every day of my life.

    • jannatwrites June 18, 2012 / 5:55 PM

      I think the card does have truth to it. I still have both parents, but I’ve watched my mom miss her dad for the last six years. I’m glad your dad was such an influence on you, and I’m sorry he’s not here with you anymore, Judith.

  12. xoEvelynOrtizHasSpoken June 19, 2012 / 4:16 AM

    aww this is so cute, I am not happy to read of the first experience but the second story I loved ❤ :-))

    • jannatwrites June 19, 2012 / 7:18 PM

      Thanks for reading, Evelyn. I know the first part isn’t pleasant, but I have to take the bad with the good 🙂

  13. GodGirl June 20, 2012 / 4:57 AM

    Beautifully written, thank you for sharing it.

  14. Sandra June 20, 2012 / 8:29 PM

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful story and tribute to your dad, Janna! A strong, loving father figure is so important in our lives.

    • jannatwrites June 20, 2012 / 8:54 PM

      I thank you for reading, Sandra. I do agree that a positive father figure is important – to both boys and girls.

  15. mairzeebp June 29, 2012 / 8:03 AM

    Janna, I just loved this. It was wonderful.

    • jannatwrites July 1, 2012 / 5:34 PM

      Thanks so much, Mairzeebp. I’m glad you stopped by to read it.

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