I hinted last week about a plan to chase away my tears as I sent my baby (okay, five-and-a-half-year old) to his first day of Kindergarten. My plan? Extra mascara and distraction. Distraction has served me well at other times in my life when I have been unable or unwilling to face certain emotions. (It could also be called “avoidance”, but that’s another therapy session blog post.)
I planned a “date day” with my husband so that instead of focusing on my “baby” growing up, I could look forward to a Monday not spent at work. After we saw the kids safely to school, we would catch a movie and go to lunch at a real restaurant without a dollar menu and where water is not served in a paper cup.
Here’s how it went down.
My younger son pulled off his departure beautifully. He showed the proper amount of “I’m gonna miss you” without the gut-wrenching clinging-to-my-leg bawling. A quick hug and a tentative pause and he went off to explore the playground. Of course, we hovered outside the gate until the classes lined up and filed into their classrooms. An over-the-shoulder glance and a smile told me he would be okay. My eyes watered, but technically I didn’t cry since my cheeks stayed mascara-free.
With the kids safely at school, our date day began by seeing a ten o’clock showing of “The Change Up”. It left me wishing I would have seen “The Smurfs” instead, but it at least we got out of the house.
Being the romantic couple that we are, we took a stroll after the movie…down the aisles of Wal Mart. Our fingers brushed as we reached for the same item on the shelf. Our shoulders touched as we contemplated whether the Velcro or sports band would be better for our younger son’s watch. We both agreed “Velcro” and we knew…we were ready for lunch.
NYPD Pizza has reasonably priced lunch specials. I got a slice of pizza and six garlic knots (buttered garlic bread rolls) for $3.99, while hubby ordered pizza and salad for a couple dollars more. Since this was an ‘already-found-my-guy’ kind of date, I didn’t have to worry about the garlic scaring him away.
Our dating days began seventeen years ago, but have been dormant for the last nine years. I was pleased to see that my husband remembered how to open the car door for me – like he used to do B.C. (before children.) He also held my hand, like he did before we had to grab children’s hands to keep them from running off.
We enjoyed times of silence, neither of us feeling the need to clutter the empty space. Long gone is the drive to make ourselves seem better than we are – we already know what we’ve got. We use manners and still find small ways to impress. Like today, we impressed each other by not wearing any pizza sauce. Oh yeah, we’ve still got it.
Lunch: $13 (with tip)
Surviving first day of Kindergarten together: Priceless
What do you and your significant other do for fun? Do you have any inexpensive date ideas? How do you keep life from draining the desire to date right out of you?