The last few days, I’ve caught myself on several occasions stating I would “try” to do something. It occurs to me now that TRY is a commitment-phobic weak word.
If I were inclined to play the blame game, I could trace my commitment issues to early teachings, like the Girl Scout promise. It starts out “On my honor I will TRY to do my duty…” Sorry. That’s all I remember (but I could TRY Google to find the rest).
I dwell on odd things, as you can see, but I’ve figured out the situations where I use TRY the most: (1) When I don’t really want to do something, but feel uncomfortable saying no, and (2) When I’m not sure if I can successfully meet a goal.
TRY is my safety net, my enabler, and it promotes my laziness. I know what I have to do: (1) Get a backbone and (2) Set realistic goals. I will try to (oops) break my TRY habit.
Doesn’t “I will finish my manuscript revision by Saturday evening” sound more powerful than “I will try to finish my manuscript revision this weekend”? I’ve made a big enough deal out of TRY that I should be able to catch and stop myself from using it. I’d much rather DO than TRY.
What is your opinion of TRY? Please share any other weak words (or phrases) that you’ve come across.